It's raining, so Aspen and I are home making chocolate yumminess!
Days like this, I am so happy to not fight my food anymore. I once thought that I'd never be able to eat chocolate or sweets without binging on them. I was afraid of food and that I'd never stop eating the sweets. I'm so relieved to have enjoyed this moment with my son without all the crazy food thoughts.
Check out this recipe: I'll let you know how it turns out.
The first picture used to terrify me. If I looked at myself when my belly was relaxed, I would be disgusted, embarrassed and eventually beat myself up.
The second picture made me feel confident. I knew that all was okay with my body and therefore I could approve of myself.
The illusion is they are the same belly. They both exist. They are both me.
“ I learned how to slow down and listen to what my body wants to eat.”
“ I have stopped controlling every aspect of my life.”
“ I am willing to accept a compliment about my body.”
“ I lovingly created boundaries with my family around my food choices.”
“ I am more compassionate and kind to myself.”
“ I realize that it has little to do food.”
“ I am no longer binging and making food bad or good.”
“ I don’t feel guilty about my food and I actually like what I look like.
Here I am in full summer fun mode with my nieces.
Nothing was gonna stop me from the Slip and Slide.
That day my nieces, son and a handful of neighborhood kids spent 6 hours riding that Slip and Slide.
heir constant squeals of laughter were contagious. It was truly a magical summertime day.
And yet with all this fun happening, I couldn’t help but have a ripple of fear run through me.
I get overwhelmingly nervous about the messages these kids are going to be inundated with about their body.
They will soon be bombarded with social media messages telling them to shape up and slim down for the summer.
Oh God, my relationship to the scale could make or break my day.
The scale was not only a device to weigh my body, but it decided if I was worthy of self-love.
It decided if I was allowed to have a good day. The scale gave me permission to eat or not to eat. The number on the scale could drive me to tears and crazy dieting.
What’s your relationship with the scale? It’s our decision as to how much importance we are going to give the number that we see on the scale.
Check out this video for more guidance on how to deal with the scale in your life.
My new favorite PLEASURE!
Life is too short! I spent way too much time neglecting my desire for yumminess in my life. Saying no to food and sweets because I was bad if I ate them. So over it!
I’m not saying it was easy to let it go of the shame of Food.
But now, I’m devoted to expanding the amount of pleasure I can allow in my life. Pleasure is not just instant gratification. Pleasure is that deep listening to my body that tells me I am on the right track.
This yummy Booch Craft reminds me of how good it feels to enjoy life. No need to have Guilt and shame.
What are you letting yourself indulge in today?
Let me know!!!
PLEASURE is when we feel good about ourselves from the inside out. PLEASURE is sometimes a quiet whisper that says, “thank you for not eating that 3rd piece of cake or “thank you for taking a nap.” PLEASURE opens up our heart. It makes us more aware of life around us and within us. PLEASURE sex releases stress and makes our body tingle and feel alive.
It’s not your fault. Society has taught us to see ourselves as not enough. Our inner critic is programmed to look for weaknesses.
I used to beat myself up every day. I can remember standing in front of the mirror telling myself how ugly I looked. The deep despair I would feel from comparing myself to others. The constant inner voices telling me that I am not good enough.
How to have Sex with the Lights on when you Hate Your Body
Are you struggling with allowing yourself pleasure because of what you look like? Many of us feel we are ONLY worthy of pleasure when our body looks a certain way. This can keep us from experiencing deep intimacy with ourselves and our partners. In this video, we are going to look at “ How to have Sex with the Lights on when you Hate your Body.”
Question: "If my 30 pounds of extra fat is causing me health problems, then how can I love myself and my fat? I’m confused." I was asked this question recently from a client. It's a good one. Wanna know my answer?Watch my replay of Facebook Live.
Body Acceptance not only lets your inner beauty shine, it allows you to receive more pleasure in your life. When we spend time stressing about what we look like; we miss out on connection, intimacy, and ultimately our life's purpose.
Whether you struggle with body shame or have body pain that is bringing you down, this FB Live is for you.
Bring that beautiful body of yours to receive some Reiki Healing
😜It's not a good idea to have sex with the lights on.
😜It's not a good idea to eat ice cream without going to the gym.
😜It's definitely not a good idea to strut your stuff at a party when you are carrying 'extra' weight.
These were the beliefs that a recent client had about her body.
We unwound each belief and here's what we found:
😫I am so sick of seeing people sell weight loss as if it was the key to happiness.
😫I am so sick of seeing before and after weight loss pictures.
😫I am so sick of people saying that they lost weight and now their lives are perfect.
😫I am so sick of people glorifying weight loss as if it was some an heroic event.
What about our self-worth being connected to the
💙 way we treat ourselves and the kindness we share with others?
💙 service and work that we share with the world?
💙 our presence with our children and loved ones?
"It's easy for YOU to love your body you are thin."
In the past couple of weeks, a few people have said this to me.
It's an interesting comment.
Yes, I am thin. In the past, that didn't change the fact that I did not like my body. I was uncomfortable. I was constantly concerned about what I looked like.
I was afraid that food would make me fat. I compared myself to others.
Honestly, my body doesn't look any different now than it did then. I haven't lost a lot of weight. I don't come from big numbers. And yet I still didn't like myself. I still didn't appreciate my body.
I spent a lot of my life feeling bad about my body. I refuse to feel that way now. I refuse to apologize for being thin. I refuse to keep my message of body positivity quiet because I am thin.
“Not liking myself means that I get to play it small. Not liking my body means that I don’t have to show up in the world in a certain way. So some ways it’s a kind of scapegoat to play small”
— Marla Mervis-Hartmann -
Check out this conversation on Living Fabulously with Bev.
his man has helped me heal my body in many ways. I remember when we were just dating. I was convinced that this beautiful sexy man wanted someone thin and skinny. In fact, I thought all men wanted women super thin and skinny. One evening he put his arm around my ribs. He touched the flesh so gently and lovingly said, "oh this feels so good. You didn't have this before." My mind started racing what? Is he telling me I just gained weight? And he's telling me he likes it? My mind did not know what to do at that moment. I didn't understand. I felt like I was in a different reality.